Dear Annie: I recently had to go to a big-box store to purchase something that I couldn't get online. The checkout lines on the grocery side of the store were six people deep, but if you looked beyond, to the other side of the store, there were no lines. I've been trying to teach family and …

EDITOR’S NOTE: Annie Lane is off this week. This column was originally published in 2018.

EDITOR’S NOTE: Annie Lane is off this week. This column was originally published in 2018.

EDITOR’S NOTE: Annie Lane is off this week. This column was originally published in 2018.

EDITOR’S NOTE: Annie Lane is off this week. This column was originally published in 2018.

EDITOR’S NOTE: Annie Lane is off this week. This column was originally published in 2018.

Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been together for five years. This last year, there has been no physical intimacy between us at all. We vibe very well in our relationship being partners in a small business. He says he is still attracted to me and keeps on blaming our busy work lives for …

Dear Annie: My wife and I have a close friend whom, in non-pandemic times, we invited over for dinner or cocktails at least once or twice a week. We've spent many holidays together over the last 10 or so years. We love her like a sister.

Dear Annie: My fiancee and I have been together for six years, and I am having a hard time understanding where I fit in her life. She claims to love me, but lately, her actions just don't say that. She puts everyone ahead of me. Last Christmas, we went to her mom's on the other side of the c…

Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our early 60s and have been married for eight years. I have four adult children and 11 grandchildren, while he has one son and two grandsons. My children are scattered across the country, while his son lives in the same small town as us.

Dear Annie: I've noticed in the past several months that my 15-year-old daughter has been steadily gaining weight. I have struggled with my weight most of my adult life and absolutely do not want my daughter to have the insecurities and low self-esteem that I have.

Dear Annie: I'm 76 years old and need to know if I'm behind the times where etiquette is concerned. I have never been married and have not been around "young folks" a lot, so maybe I'm just behind the times.

Dear Annie: Like so many others, I lost my old job because of COVID-19. I was a waitress in a small restaurant and bar. Now, I work in a yarn mill. I am not unfriendly with my co-workers, but don't socialize with them, as we have very little in common. There is a former co-worker, who now is…

Dear Annie: Sometimes, in the course of conversation with someone who has an accent, I'll find myself mimicking their speech. It's entirely unintentional and embarrassing, and I'm sure it irritates the other person. I've had to explain multiple times to people of varying vernaculars that I'm…

Dear Annie: My husband has a HUGE family. They gather every year between Christmas and New Year's Eve in a hotel for at least three days. They are planning to do so this year, during the pandemic. So far, most of them plan on going, which would be almost 80 people. They are coming from Flori…

Dear Annie: My son has been dating a girl for a little over three years. My husband and I really like her. Our son loves her. Here's the problem: I have asked her before to help in the kitchen with meal preparation and cleanup, and she refuses.

Dear Annie: I am a highly successful professional single mother in my mid-40s. My ex-husband and I divorced 10 years ago, and we have two wonderful children. I am happily dating a colleague, and all of my friends and some of my family are happy for me and like my boyfriend. The problem is my…

Dear Annie: I read your column every day. Of course, lately, the issues revolve around COVID-19 and the problem of being unable to gather for significant events, especially holidays. People seem to be going the extra mile to find alternative ways to "gather."

Dear Annie: I am a 64-year-old truck driver from East Texas. I went to a gentlemen's club and befriended a dancer there, "Renee," and I have grown to love her dearly in my heart. I feel she is a good-hearted, loving, beautiful and special woman. She is a queen in my heart. She has a 3-year-o…

Dear Readers: Although this holiday season has looked very different for us due to not being able to travel or see loved ones, let's try and remember the spirit of the season and that this is only temporary. Wishing you all a joyous, albeit unordinary, end to the holidays. Enjoy these holida…

Dear Annie: Years ago, I read the toilet seat debate in the Ann Landers column. It featured women upset about men leaving the toilet seat up after use and men defensive about it.

Dear Annie: I have been talking with this gentleman for almost four years; we've been in a long-distance relationship online. He claims that he mailed me a large sum of money, and so he has nothing now. But I have not seen this box full of money that he supposedly sent. He keeps saying that …

Dear Readers: The letter from No More Balloons caused quite a reaction, with many of you offering suggestions for other ways of celebrating. Here is a sampling:

Dear Annie: As the holidays near in this unusual year, I'm seeking advice on how to handle a situation we've been dealing with — poorly — the past few years.

Dear Annie: My husband doesn't spend time with me anymore. We have been together for eight years and married for three. We were inseparable most of that time, but, all of a sudden, he doesn't want me around. He says most married people hardly ever hang out. He tells me the honeymoon is over.

Dear Annie: I'm frustrated with my sister-in-law and the way that she plans the holidays that she hosts or organizes. Generally, what happens is that she will reach out to the family to see what will work for everyone. We'll make any other plans around the agreed-upon plan. Then, closer to t…

Dear Annie: I am about to get married to a woman I am still madly in love with, five years after we first met. Within two months after our first date, we told each other we were in love with each other and wanted to date each other exclusively. Yet, within four months, she was lying to me, g…

Dear Annie: I'm 48 years old. I've been a single mom since I had my first kid — in other words, since forever. I've never really had healthy relationships with men. I'm way too trusting and just want love so badly. A few months ago, I accidentally texted a man I knew from high school. We end…

Dear Annie: I'm confused about an issue that involves my husband. We have been separated for 13 years. We try to work things out all the time, but now, suddenly, he said I cheated on him. He also said that all I do is lie to him. He said he doesn't want to listen to me when I tell him the tr…

Dear Annie: My mother separated from my father when I was 3. She left my father, who never came looking for us. She later married a wonderful man who loves me more than anything.

Dear Annie: Your responders are showing the wonderful ways they are illustrating generosity and care this season, even at the expense of their own enjoyment of the holidays. A suggestion for making those benefits available past Jan. 1 would be to adopt a school or family or shelter, and to c…

Dear Annie: Each year, my family celebrates Thanksgiving and Christmas with my parents and my brother's family. When I was a teenager, my grandma taught me how to make her special holiday dishes that have been our family tradition for many years. Eventually, my grandma was no longer able to …

Dear Annie: I have been with my boyfriend for 16 years. Until this year, we were very happy. We shared a home together and talked all the time. We had a healthy sex life. Our relationship was great. But when the pandemic happened, his 22-year-old daughter moved in. Since then, my world was t…

Dear Annie: My sister passed away in September, and I was really looking forward to spending an evening with her family during Christmas. I'd not really been close with her husband or children in the past, but it's important to me to spend time with them now.

Dear Annie: I am approaching my 72nd birthday. I am an only child. My dad died in 1995. My mother was nearly 97 when she died in 2004.

Dear Annie: Two years ago, I got on my then-17-year-old son for using a very derogatory term for women. I told him that the word should not be a part of his vocabulary, and it would cause great harm to his reputation if he were to use the word in public. He got angry with me. The argument en…

Dear Annie: I have been dating and living with my man now for one and a half years. We are not young; he's 66, and I'm 58. He's been married twice, and both times ended in divorce. I have been married once and am divorced.

Dear Annie: I went out with a friend from high school 36 years ago, and he was my first. After all those years of both of us being married to other people, we found each other on Facebook after our spouses passed away. We've been seeing each other for almost 10 months now, and he's talking a…

Dear Annie: My girlfriend has done a lot for my family and me, but they show little enthusiasm for her. How can I get them to appreciate her more and to reciprocate what she has done? I live in fear of them attacking her or being cynical about romance itself.

Dear Annie: My husband can't sing. I'm not judging him for that, because I can't sing either. The problem is that he thinks he can. Every morning, as I'm getting ready for work, he's putting on a little concert in the bathroom. Nights when he's making dinner, he puts on the radio and sings a…

Dear Annie: I live in Texas in a small neighborhood and am still relatively new to this area. Two years ago, a traumatic event happened to me not long after I'd moved in.

Dear Annie: I'm 65, and my boyfriend is 70. We've been in an on-again, off-again relationship for more than eight years. I met him online six months after my divorce from my spouse of 32 years. He told me he had been divorced 25 years and had never remarried, only for me to find out that he …

Dear Annie: My good friend, who happens to be in her 40s, moved back in with her parents over five years ago because of her health and for financial reasons. Her parents have allowed her to live with them and don't require her to pay rent.

Dear Annie: This is for "Concerned Mom" whose daughter was having trouble making new friends in college during COVID-19.

Dear Annie: I've been seeing this man since we met in 2017. He hasn't introduced me to any family members or friends. When I ask him why, he always says there's never a chance to. I'm thinking to myself that there have been plenty of chances, but he just doesn't take them. This is especially…

Dear Annie: I've hit a dead end and am not sure what to do. My family has become dysfunctional to the point of my wanting to take my husband and kids and move far away from them all.

Dear Annie: My husband tells me that I'm cheating on him by talking to my friends and family. He talks to people on the phone who I don't even know, but I don't ever worry about it or get on his case about it. What can I do? — Needing Help in Virginia

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